Have I Done my part?

I am so excited to introduce and present to others Mrs. Sequelia Erskine. I have watched her grow and develop over the years and she has grown into a remarkable Woman of God. She is always posting great food for thoughts about life, family, love, and the Christian Faith on Facebook and Instagram. She is transparent, and balanced. She loves her family and friends, and she is a great example for young women. I asked her to be a guest contributor this week, and she obliged. Thank you Sequelia for being a yielded vessel! God Bless You! ~ Miranda

Judges 2:1-3

“The angel of the Lord went up from Gilgal to Bokim and said, “I brought you up out of Egypt and led you into the land I swore to give to your ancestors. I said, ‘I will never break my covenant with you, and you shall not make a covenant with the people of this land, but you shall break down their altars.’ Yet you have disobeyed me. Why have you done this? And I have also said, ‘I will not drive them out before you; they will become traps for you, and their gods will become snares to you.’”
This event marked a significant change in Israel’s relationship with God. At Mount Sinai, God had made a sacred & binding agreement with the Israelites called a covenant. God’s part was to make Israel a special nation, to protect them & to give them unique blessings for following him. Israel’s part was to love God & obey his laws. But because they rejected & disobeyed God, the agreement to protect them was no longer in effect. Yet God still refused to abandon his people. They would still receive all the blessings if they asked God to forgive them & if they sincerely followed him again. Although God’s agreement to help Israel conquer the land was no longer in effect,  his promise to make Israel a nation (through whom the whole world would be blessed) remained valid. God still wanted the Israelites to be holy people (just as he wants us to be holy), and God would often use oppression to bring them back to him. Has God ever had to oppress you, just to remind you to never forget who he is?
The bible tells of so many times where God allowed his people to be oppressed so that they would repent of their sins & return to him.
Do we resemble the Israelites, today?
Too often we want God to fulfill his promises while excusing ourselves from OUR responsibilities. Starting today, challenge yourself that before you claim God’s promise ever again, that you will always first ask yourself, “Have I done MY part”?
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This was awesome! Thank you so much Quelia! This really hit home for me. Let’s get our houses in order people! Obedience is better than sacrifice! God love sometimes includes chastisement. As parents (and aunts, lol in my case) sometimes you have to disipline your child. You do this only out of love because you know what they can be, and you only want the best for them. God wants the best for you! I am thankful for a God that loves me enough that when I get out of order, he thinks enough of me to check me! I don’t want to be like the Israelites were, they had a Sheree moment off of the Real Housewives of Atlanta…the way they acted they were saying to God, “Who’s gonna check me boo?” And guess what, He showed them who was….and HE CHECKED THEM! LOL. I love you all, thank you again Sequelia for your awesome and on-time post. Please comment, and feel free to email me at abundantheart14@gmail.com. Until next time….
In His Abundant Love,
Miranda
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My Engagement

“You are so special to me. You are one of a kind, irreplaceable. You have been through alot of things in your life. Things that have changed and molded you. The pressure has caused you to become a diamond. You are the apple of God’s eye, and you are the apple of my eye. You have such a great destiny. The gifts and talents that God placed in you are so awesome. You are a Queen, my queen, and I will treat you as such. You are beautiful, delicate, and precious. You are not only beautiful on the outside, you are beautiful on the inside. You are loving, caring, kind, sweet, and thoughtful. I will always have your back. I will always protect your heart. I will protect your body. I will nurture and protect your spirit. I will stay connected to the father, to help you grow spiritually. I will love you unconditionally, and forever. So today, I ask you for your hand. Will you Marry me?”

And I said…..YES!

Every woman has her dream engagement. Her dream engagement ring, etc. As I have stated before, I have been doing serious introspection. I have a desire to be married, but I have to ask myself, am I truly ready? I have to be real with myself, and realize that I am still a work in progress….I mean we all are, but there are certain things that we have to look at, before we even think about dating or being in a serious relationship with someone. One of the things that I have realized is that I first have to be in a serious relationship with God….and with myself. This is why I asked myself to marry me….let me explain further.

As God has been revealing certain things to me, my daddy isssues, my unforgiveness, my anger, my loneliness…I realized that in all of those issues, I went outside of God to try to fill those voids. In the process, I lost myself. I didn’t love myself, I didn’t value myself, I didn’t cherish myself. Some of the things that I have chosen to do in the past, were done to feel loved, or to try to gain someone’s love, the affection i was wanting and missing and even to feel good about myself. I have had my moments were I didn’t care. Moments where i was boasting in myself. But all the while inside, I was dying. I was hurting so bad, but I kept up a facade, where no one would know or even think that I was tore up.

I realized that because I didn’t love God like I should have, I wasn’t dedicated to Him like I should have been. And  because didn’t love myself, I couldn’t even be dedicated to myself. There is a saying when it comes to relationships that, If someone doesn’t love God, then they won’t know how to truly love you. This is so true in relationships and also with self. How will I learn to truly love myself, or see myself as God sees me, if I don’t build my relationship with Him and let Him pour his love into me? God is Love, and if I don’t know God…then I won’t know true Love for myself, nor when it comes from a significant other. Alot of times, this is why we settle.  We cannot recognize true love, because we are not in relationship with the Lover of our souls.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, dedicate means: to officially make (something) a place for honoring or remembering a person, event, etc. ; to devote to the worship of a divine being; specifically: to set apart to sacred uses wtih solemn rites; to commit to a goal or way of life.

Romans 12:1-2 (KJV) says:

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

So today, I choose to make my body a place for honoring God, I devote myself to the worship of the Almighty God, Jehovah  and I will renew my mind daily so that I can reach the goals that God has for me. Today I charge you to take inventory of your life and do the same.

Engagement, according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary means, An arrangement to meet or be present at a specified time and place; emotional involvement or commitment; the state of being in gear.

I proposed to myself today….and I accepted. So now, I am engaged….to myself. I am presenting my body as a living sacrifice, holy, and acceptable unto God, which is my reasonable service. God, I am your yielded vessel. Help me to be who you have called me to be. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you want to just talk, or if you would like to share your self-engagement story to be published on here, email me at abundantheart14@gmail.com.

In His Abundant Love,

Miranda

The Loneliness Part 2

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That loneliness caused me to get into another painful relationship. I was too busy trying to be what I thought he wanted me to be. I was seeking love and validation in the wrong place. I went through and did things in that relationship that I never thought I would do. I lost my faith, I didn’t pray like I used to, I didn’t read like I used to. That man and that relationship became my Idol. I began to be isolated from my family and friends.I accepted treatment from him that was unimaginable. I literally went through Hell, all because I did not value myself and I did not want to be alone.

I was a late bloomer. I didn’t get my first boyfriend until I was 20, and to this day I have only had 3 serious relationships. Growing up, I was bullied by peers and family members…for a long time I thought no one liked me. I’ve dealt with thoughts of suicide. I have been called ugly, fat, even been told I stunk to my face. I was talked about because of my hair, my clothes, etc. And I never bothered anybody. That was the thing that I never could understand. I just thought I was unwanted, and unloved.

That’s the way the enemy wants you to feel. He is strategic in his moves. He studies each and every one of us closely, looking at our weaknesses and strengths. He attacks you where you are weak. This is why it is so important for us to recognize where we are mentally and emotionally…and work on that. Own up to your stuff! Deal with it, and then move on.

So I have been owning up to my stuff. I have been dealing with my stuff. I STILL have stuff to work on. But I am so thankful that God is faithful to complete the work that he has began in me.

Phillippians 1:6-“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:”

I am so thankful right now for God’s chastisement, because I know that he loves me. He wants me to make it! He wants YOU to make it!

Hebrews 12:6-AMP-“For the Lord corrects and disciplines everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes.

So let God try the reigns of your heart. Let him clean you up…let him Show you, YOU! Its not always easy, but I know that it is worth it. He is ironing out my wrinkles, healing my blemishes. This time in my life is not easy…sometimes it hurts. But, I look at it like this…if you think of a child who is going through a growth spurt…their bones ache, because they are growing. My soul is aching because the SPIRIT is growing inside of me…and those things that are not like God are being pushed out. God showed me that I had to forgive…it hurt me to realize that I had been harboring that, but as I went through the process…pushed it out…the pain subsided. When God showed me that I had anger issues…it hurt me because I didn’t realize I did…but as I let things go…that pain subsided. Now, as God is freeing me of this loneliness….the pain is subsiding…..Thank you Jesus. So, if you are lonely, angry, hurting, holding grudges….remember that God still loves you, and he is the Healer of all. He already took care of that on the cross, all you have to do is receive it. I want to leave you with this scripture…its actually one of my favorites….but keep this in mind as you go through the pain of the process…it won’t last always…..

Romans 8:18-“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”

Listen to this song by the Clark sisters….

God Bless you. If you want to talk, or just vent. Feel free to hit me up in my email….abundantheart14@gmail.com.  Feel free to comment below!

In His Abundant Love,

Miranda

The Loneliness

Good morning folks,

Today I am going to be really transparent with you. I have been doing deep introspection lately, just trying to deal with ME, face my issues…do what I have to do to improve myself. I have been reflecting on my relationship with God, my purpose, and my vision. Just doing some deep thinking. As I have been  on this journey, God has been revealing things to me about my character, deep rooted issues, and about my heart.  And man…the things he has revealed to me….wow.

Hand of Destiny

In life, one thing I am learning is that we all have to face harsh realities from time to time. We can go through life with the facade that everything is ok. When inside you are tore up. Well, I am at a point in my life where I am tired of wearing the facade. When I discover an issue, I am going to own up to it and deal with it so that I will be able to move on to the next thing. Not only does my life depend on it, but the lives of those who are assigned to my voice as far as leadership is concerned and my future husband and children. I want to be complete for myself and for them. I want to be in the place where God is most pleased with me.

There was a song by babyface that I really liked back in the day called the Loneliness. I thought about that title as I was writing this, because this is the latest thing that I have been dealing with…Loneliness. Now, if you know me, I’m not a poplar person…don’t care to be. I don’t mind being by myself, I actually like to be to myself at times, and I’m not desperate for attention. I know you are thinking, well you are not lonely then.  LOL. Yea, I have fooled myself by saying that. I actually have attained a busy loneliness (term used by my sister Gabby…:-) ). I am out here, doing things..trying to stay busy, so that I don’t deal with the loneliness that i feel on the inside. Life is changing all around me, and I feel alone in some ways, because some things aren’t happening for me just yet.  I do realize that everything happens in God’s timing…and I am ok with that, but I had to ask God yesterday, what do I do with this? How do I not be lonely? Why am I lonely

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I realize that you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. You can be in a relationship with someone and still be lonely.  The main thing that I had to realize was that my loneliness does not come from not having people around me…it comes from me not communing like I should with the God that lives within me. The Bible says in James 4:8-10 KJV:

“Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double-minded. Be afflicted and mourn and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to heaviness. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”

One thing that we don’t often realize is that we tend to operate out of the issues that we have. I watched the Iyanla, Fix my life reaction episode this weekend about the effects of being a fatherless son. Many of the men that were represented on the show had many children. Many of whom they were not connected with. It turns out that they were creating children with women….that they weren’t necessarily wanting to be connected to…but they connected with them physically to fill a void that they were missing on the inside. Alot of them were seeking love in the wrong places. She also talked with the women too…a lot of the women who dealt with these men were also fatherless daughters..and they were broken…looking to fill a void in their lives as well.

So I had to look at the voids that I was trying to fill in my life. No, I am not a fatherless daugther. I grew up with both parents. The voids that I realized I was trying to fill were self-worth. I wanted to be accepted, validated. I am so much more secure in myself now than I was 5 years ago, but I realize I still have some growing to do. Because if i didn’t then I wouldn’t still exhibit some of my current behaviors. I have been guilty of trying to fill a void with a man. I have made a man my whole world, only to lose him….and then I questioned myself…was I not good enough? Was I not pretty enough? Am I not thin enough? etc. Then I went on to allow men to come into my life, take advantage of me physically, and tear me apart emotionally. I stayed because I didn’t value myself, I didn’t know myself, and I didn’t want to be alone. But yet….I was still lonely.

I will continue on with Part 2 of the Loneliness tomorrow.

Much Agape,

Miranda

The Blood Moons

It is imperative that we PAY ATTENTION to the wonders of the universe. God gives us signs in the heavens. Psalm 19:1 says: “The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.”

In Matthew 24:32-33 it says:

32 Now learn a parable of the fig tree; When his branch is yet tender, and putteth forth leaves, ye know that summer is nigh:

33 So likewise ye, when ye shall see all these things, know that it is near, even at the doors.

We will know the season….by watching the signs. I watched this video on Sidroth.org not too long ago. it was posted on www.Sidroth.org (awesome website):

http://sidroth.org/television/tv-archives/mark-biltz-0

I saw this article on CNN this morning:

http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/03/tech/innovation/second-blood-moon/index.html?hpt=hp_t2

God Bless You!

In His Abundant Love,

Miranda

Celebrate your sisters

Today, I thought I would celebrate my sisters. I have three younger sisters. All three are awesome people. The one right under me  is a great artist and photographer. She was always the sassiest one. She is married and has a beautiful little girl…my pride and joy :-). And the first niece and grandbaby. I admire her because I watch how she handles all of her duties as a stay-at-home mom and wife. A lot of people do not recognize the hard work that goes into taking care of a home and taking care of a baby and a husband. She works hard, she takes a lot, and sometimes goes unappreciated. I can remember us growing up, she never wanted kids, really didn’t want to be married, she didn’t like to clean, nor cook…and now…she is totally the opposite. She loves to cook..and can…she loves her baby girl…her husband..and she is a clean freak. Its amazing how time and age changes us. She has most definitely changed for the better. LOL. She is also my best friend. she has a page on facebook where she is advertising her paintings and photography…Perfect 7. Check her out!

My next sister is an amazing cook, very clever, and has special faith. I have watched her endure so much growing up. She went through a lot with her teachers and the public school system…they tried to label her. She went through a bit of a depression, but to look at her now, you wouldn’t know it. She is the most photogenic out of all of us. All of her pics turn out perfect. I am so jealous! She is beginning to live her dream as a caterer. She makes great sandwhiches, soups, and macaroni-n-cheese! LOL!  I think that a lot of people underestimate and don’t understand her. But I see her as a Phoenix rising out of the ashes. She is on her track to her destiny….she is great. She has a great sense of humor. She is so crazy! And her dreadlocks are absolutely gorgeous! We pass by each other on the way to work many days, and I see her, she never sees me, but one thing I do notice is that she is always praying on her way. Watching her, it makes me look at myself, and I realize I need to pray more. She is a praying woman. I think that is awesome. She is awesome.

And last but not least, my baby baby sister….lol. My baby! She is very intelligent, witty, such a great writer. She is super smart, and destined for greatness. I am so proud of her. An awesome young woman of God as well. I remember when she first came home from the hospital. The cute brown baby with a head full of hair, and huge cheeks! She wasn’t a baby long. She was always advanced. I will never forget hearing her laugh for the first time. We were so tickled. She came into our lives unexpectedly, but we cannot  picture life without her. She is so straight to the point, and she has a lot of ways like me. She is very serious and moody, but she can be super goofy. The girl is talented! She can play the trumpet and  I believe she could sing if she just would. Lol.  She is most definitely destined for greatness. She has a Grace touch. Everything that she touches works, activates. I am super proud of her, and anything that I can do to help her…I will do. One thing I wish is that she saw herself like I see her. A beautiful chocolate drop, with so much going for herself. She is peculiar, she is the apple of God’s eye. She also has a blog: thepenandtheneedle.BlogSpot.com, and she is a freelance writer at Gossip and Gab. check her out!

My sisters are so different, but one thing I can say is that we will always be there for each other. I think it is important for us to lift each other up. Tell each other what we see in each other, because what we may see, they may not. I encourage you to encourage your sisters, (blood, and un-related). We need each other. Words are powerful! Speak life into each other’s lives.

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Me and my sisters at my baby baby sister’s high school graduation.

Much Agape,

Miranda

#whatILearned

We all now know about the Ray Rice issue. Jokes and opinions about his situation are spreading like wildfire. Some people are blaming him, some are blaming Janay, some are not happy that he has lost his job, some are saying that she is took it only because she enjoys the lifestyle. My thing is this….The way he hit her in the elevator, leads me to one conclusion: This is not the first time he has hit her. My main concern now is that they both get help, because there is an issue on both ends. My thing is this…physical violence in a relationship is never the way to handle any issue that you may be having with each other. That is a childish way to lash out, in my opinion.

There was a trending topic on twitter that I thought was very eye-opening, and also very brave to me. The #whyIstayed trending topic was great because it helped others to see that they were not alone in what they went through, and that overall any type of abuse generally roots from similar issues. The bible is true when it says, there is nothing new under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1:9) . Self-esteem issues, mom issues, dad issues, etc. are the root a lot of times. This is why it is so important to find out what the root issue is, and kill the root. If you don’t kill the root, the weed will continue to grow, and there are a lot of weeds getting into flowerbeds these days. The other sad thing is that many do not realize that they are a flowerbed. A beautiful combination of various types, fragrances and colors of flowers that creates one beautiful masterpiece. YOU ARE A FLOWERBED of various talents, and purpose, personality, traits and other things that combine and make you one unique person.

I can remember when I was in an abusive relationship, not physical, but mental, emotional, and verbal. Those mental and emotional scars are hard to heal. These types of scars are the type that only God can heal. It has taken me years to get to the point that I am at now. Praying, and just taking time to reflect, and allowing God to show me my heart revealed to me the issues that I had. I had to ask myself the questions…Why did I chose this person? Why did I stay? What did I really think about myself? Asking yourself these hard questions is vitally important. Taking the time to do this can literally save your life. I can remember I was in a state where I thought at one point I was going to lose my mind. I didn’t think much of myself at all, and I didn’t think that I could get anyone better than who I was with at the time. I couldn’t believe that they wanted me…so I did whatever I had to do to keep them. My life revolved around them, what they needed, what they wanted, and what I thought they wanted me to be. While I was being abused by them, I was neglecting myself. I was losing myself, and that too is a form of abuse.

When you neglect a flowerbed, weeds start to grow, because you haven’t taken the time to prune, to cultivate the dirt or to put mulch down. Neglect leaves room for anything to enter in. Weeds start to creep up, all types of different insects start to destroy the flowers…Its the small foxes that destroy a vine (Song of Solomon 2:15).  We have to guard our hearts (Prov: 4:23). So if there was any lesson that I learned, it is that you have to first love God with your whole heart, seek His word, learn what He says about you, this will cause you to love yourself. When you love yourself, there are certain things that you will not accept.  So I want to start a new trending topic. #whatILearned.  I will begin with me….#whatILearned is that there are always early signs, and it is important to always pray and ask God, seek good counsel before you enter into a relationship. NEVER SETTLE. Be watchful. God will never lead you into any situation unaware. I learned how important it is to love yourself, and to know yourself. I also learned that no man should ever define how high your self-esteem is. Once you realize that you are a child of the King, and the apple of God’s eye, nothing else matters.

Share with me below what you have learned from being in a bad situation. Whether its been a relationship, or life circumstances, etc. share what you have learned. I look forward to hearing what you have learned. If you need to talk about anything, feel free to contact me via email at abundantheart14@gmail.com. It will be confidential.

Much Agape,

Miranda