To all the Single Ladies: Worship while you wait

Hey!

I know its been awhile since I have posted anything…again…but I choose to speak when I know God has shared something with me that I should share. Just like many of you, I too, are single. Its not the easiest season to be in when you see your close friends and family and even folks who you may deem undeserving of true love, (keepin’ it real, we all know someone like that) get in relationships, engaged, married, and then begin their families. Especially if this is a desire that you have in your heart. Trust me, I know. This year I turned 33, and it doesn’t help when people ask you the questions, “When are you gonna get married?” “When are you gonna have kids?” Or they say insensitive things to you like, “If you keep on waiting, you are gonna wait too late to have kids.” Blah, Blah, Blah. I get tired of those questions, and yes, I have to be honest, at times I get tired of waiting, but I know that God’s timing is perfect, and I would rather wait on the right one than to enter into a right now relationship. I’ve been in too many of those, and you never get the outcome that you want.

I ran across a great article on the website, Married and Young (www.marriedandyoung.com, great website…check it out!) And there was an article entitled, “Is He the One?” written by Shannon Colar. In this article, Shannon discusses her experience of meeting a guy that seemed to be everything that she wanted. They spent time together, met each other’s family and friends, etc., someone even “prophesized to her that He would walk her down the aisle…..(how many of you have that happened to?) but it all ceased at a point, and then when they would communicate, it would be in cycles. Talk for three months, don’t talk for three, kind of thing. (I’ve been there SEVERAL TIMES, I’m so over that…LOL). So she sought answers…and one of her mentors told her, ““Whenever I find myself liking a guy, I worship! I make sure my heart is turned towards God”.  When I read those words, it turned on a light bulb.  Worship while you wait. Waiting in this single season, does not mean not doing anything. It is so important to be lead by God during this season, because you can end up in situations that will hinder your growth…. the longer you hinder your growth…the longer you delay your promise. Think about the Children of Israel…they ended up in the wilderness for 40 years…a trip that should have taken days because of their attitude. What is your attitude in this season? We have to check ourselves FIRST in every situation…because a lot of the time, WE are the issue.

Ms. Colar stated in her article, “Instead of going to God asking him if “he” was my husband, I sought his face, I worshiped, I prayed, I studied, I journaled, I cried, I did whatever it took to make sure my focus was back where it belonged.

WE HAVE TO MAKE SURE OUR FOCUS IS WHERE IT BELONGS….Not on finding a man, but on finding God. Everything else will line up. 6 Years ago, after my last relationship, I promised myself and God that I would not commit myself to anyone else unless I knew they were it. I said that I would work on myself, get rid of any baggage I had and make sure that I was wife material. I had to work on my self-image, my self-worth, and most importantly, my relationship with God. I knew that I needed to be transformed, and no one else could do it but Him.

While you wait, enjoy your life! Travel, try new things, go on road-trips….have fun! Develop your relationship with God…and watch, he will pop up before you know it. God is faithful, and he would not have put that desire to marry inside of your heart if it wasn’t for you. We have to just Trust Him. Ms. Colar ended her article with these words of wisdom….”……..seek the face of Jesus and watch him make things crystal clear for you. As Christians one may say that’s a given, but it’s the simple things that gets over looked when the heart becomes overjoyed by possibility.” Watch and pray. Be still and listen. Trust and obey. Worship while you wait. Don’t get caught up in your feelings….seasons change. Stay on God’s path through those seasons, and you will be ok.

If you want to talk…need encouragement, want me to believe God with you…just hit me up at abunantheart14@gmail.com. I’ll be glad to pray with you!

Here is the link to the article: http://www.marriedandyoung.com/one/

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A Divine Connection

Today I thought that I would shine the light on my best friend in the whole wide world Tisa. We have known each other since 2000. It is amazing how we were connected. We met at community college and I thought for a whole year that she was one of my suitemates, because she was there…ALL the time. I didn’t know until later that she actually had a room on another floor.

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She was cool, friendly, I can remember she had a car, a Blue Chevy citation, and she would give me and my cousin rides from time to time to go to get something to eat. As I started to get to know her a little better, but still not really (LOL), she would come visit me in my room and lay in my bed…all under my covers…and eat my food. LOL! I used to think…what is this girl doing….she is getting super comfortable…but I wouldn’t say anything. Later on I found out that I reminded her of her sister that was overseas in the military at the time. When I went around her folks…a lot of them told me I put them in mind of her sister as well.

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She had a sharp tongue at one point. Sometimes when she would tell you something, it would feel like a double-edged sword….LOL. Now it seems like we have switched roles…LOL! God began to work on her, and she got saved as she would put it ,”FOR REAL”, and it was on and popping from there. She was transformed.

Tisa is one of the most focused people I have met. I wish at times I were more like her, sometimes I feel all over the place! When she tells you she is going to do something, she does it. She is thoughtful, kind, a great listener, wise, sentimental, and very hospitable. Most of all, she is a God-fearing woman, a praying woman, and very sensitive to the spirit. Everything that she has set out to do, she has done. She joined the army, she got her education, she has traveled, and now she has opened her non-profit, Empowered for Life, Inc. (Check out her site and donate! http://www.empoweredforlifeinc.com/). #E4L!

We have been through a lot together. We have laughed, cried, been mad, road tripped, ministered, goofed around, and just chilled together…”Ole’ Teacake!” LOL! (inside joke). I couldn’t have asked God for a better best friend. I don’t know what I would do without her. She has blessed me so much. She is the epitome of what an asset is.

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Now, my bestie is about to get married, and that is going to shift our relationship a little, so the moments that I have been able to have with her this year has been extra bittersweet for me. I won’t necessarily hold the same place in her life anymore. That is how it is supposed to be though. We have prayed for this since we were 18 years old, and it brings me joy to see our prayer come to reality. God has blessed her with a man that loves her unconditionally. He is everything she needs and wants. God hooked her up!

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Tisa girl, I love you…I am proud of you, and I know that your dad is looking down on you and smiling from ear to ear. I know Glo is proud of you as well. When we met 14 years ago, we didn’t realize that we would be as tight as we are. I know that God divinely connected us, and for that I am so grateful. Some people are still looking for someone to call friend. You have became more than just my friend, you are my sister. You may go through your issues and problems, but you still manage to check on others and make sure they are ok. You have the heart of God. He has truly reduced you to love. I just wanted to express my appreciation for you publicly. My grandma always said, give people their flowers while they yet live. I know you are not necessarily a big fan of flowers….lol…but here’s yours.  Love you girl!

In His Abundant Love,

Miranda

The Loneliness Part 2

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That loneliness caused me to get into another painful relationship. I was too busy trying to be what I thought he wanted me to be. I was seeking love and validation in the wrong place. I went through and did things in that relationship that I never thought I would do. I lost my faith, I didn’t pray like I used to, I didn’t read like I used to. That man and that relationship became my Idol. I began to be isolated from my family and friends.I accepted treatment from him that was unimaginable. I literally went through Hell, all because I did not value myself and I did not want to be alone.

I was a late bloomer. I didn’t get my first boyfriend until I was 20, and to this day I have only had 3 serious relationships. Growing up, I was bullied by peers and family members…for a long time I thought no one liked me. I’ve dealt with thoughts of suicide. I have been called ugly, fat, even been told I stunk to my face. I was talked about because of my hair, my clothes, etc. And I never bothered anybody. That was the thing that I never could understand. I just thought I was unwanted, and unloved.

That’s the way the enemy wants you to feel. He is strategic in his moves. He studies each and every one of us closely, looking at our weaknesses and strengths. He attacks you where you are weak. This is why it is so important for us to recognize where we are mentally and emotionally…and work on that. Own up to your stuff! Deal with it, and then move on.

So I have been owning up to my stuff. I have been dealing with my stuff. I STILL have stuff to work on. But I am so thankful that God is faithful to complete the work that he has began in me.

Phillippians 1:6-“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:”

I am so thankful right now for God’s chastisement, because I know that he loves me. He wants me to make it! He wants YOU to make it!

Hebrews 12:6-AMP-“For the Lord corrects and disciplines everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes.

So let God try the reigns of your heart. Let him clean you up…let him Show you, YOU! Its not always easy, but I know that it is worth it. He is ironing out my wrinkles, healing my blemishes. This time in my life is not easy…sometimes it hurts. But, I look at it like this…if you think of a child who is going through a growth spurt…their bones ache, because they are growing. My soul is aching because the SPIRIT is growing inside of me…and those things that are not like God are being pushed out. God showed me that I had to forgive…it hurt me to realize that I had been harboring that, but as I went through the process…pushed it out…the pain subsided. When God showed me that I had anger issues…it hurt me because I didn’t realize I did…but as I let things go…that pain subsided. Now, as God is freeing me of this loneliness….the pain is subsiding…..Thank you Jesus. So, if you are lonely, angry, hurting, holding grudges….remember that God still loves you, and he is the Healer of all. He already took care of that on the cross, all you have to do is receive it. I want to leave you with this scripture…its actually one of my favorites….but keep this in mind as you go through the pain of the process…it won’t last always…..

Romans 8:18-“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”

Listen to this song by the Clark sisters….

God Bless you. If you want to talk, or just vent. Feel free to hit me up in my email….abundantheart14@gmail.com.  Feel free to comment below!

In His Abundant Love,

Miranda